All the romantic lore of our culture has told us when we find true love with a partner it will continue. Yet this partnership lasts only if both parties remain committed to being loving. Not everyone can bear the weight of true love. Wounded hearts turn away from love because they do not want to do the work of healing necessary to sustain and nurture love. Many men, especially, often turn away from true love and choose relationships in which they can be emotionally withholding when they feel like it but still receive love from someone else. Ultimately, they choose power over love. To know and keep true love we have to be willing to surrender the will to power. . Bell Hooks
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True love is a sacrifice. True love requires a great deal of work, and both partners have to be willing to do it. If a person only gives a little bit of effort, they will not have the true love that they desire. If a person does not want to be committed to being loving, they will not have the true love that they desire.

Being committed to being loving means doing what is needed for the relationship to be strong and happy. In order for a couple to have true love, there has to be mutual commitment. Each partner has to accept that the other partner is willing to do whatever it takes in order for the relationship to succeed.

This can include sacrificing things that are important in their lives, such as friends or hobbies, in order to make the relationship work. They must also accept that when they are in conflict with each other, they will do whatever is necessary in order to avoid fighting with each other.

Source: All About Love: New Visions

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